The ability to network in person and chat folks up is a dying art. With texting and Facebooking becoming the main means of communication for most folks, I think the act of face to face communication is suffering for sure. I am a chatter upper, and it's why I know so many awesome folks.
No matter where I'm at or what I'm doing, I have the keen ability to within ten minutes have people say, "I like her." I am always a smash hit when I meet the parents of the boyfriend. If there is someone I find interesting and I want to know them, I simply walk up and introduce myself. Just now in the hall the Director of our Child Development Division walked by and I said, "Hey Camille. I need to come see you soon. I want to work with you guys and I want to come over and explore some of my options. I'll send you a meeting request this or next week." She said, "That sounds great Melanie. I'll be waiting to hear from you!"
I notice the more reliant folks become on email and such, the less they are able to look someone in the eye and have a thoughtful conversation. People are becoming more and more socially inept and unable to interact in a real life social setting. It's why I also have dinner parties. I have shrunk the group size down to 10 or less as I found the larger parties made it difficult to really visit with everyone. The next party will be a mid-century food themed party. Hello tomato aspic, pigs in a blanket, and deviled eggs!
I think it's really important to get out in the real world and have meaningful conversation with others. The interpersonal connection where you get to look in to someone's eyes, or perhaps give them a meaningful touch on the arm to really take a message home, is something I cherish. I couldn't live my life without it.
Also, the reason internet dating was so weird for me is that I'm the exact opposite of most. Most people come across far better communicating via electronic message. They have time to come up with "witty" retorts (I put that in quotes because it isn't wit when you've had a day to think it up), and they don't have to worry about a bad reaction to something they've said. I, however, come across FAR better in person.
I will say on the first date with Unicorn I kept tripping over my words and not being able to form complete sentences. I was totally and completely nervous which does NOT happen to me, and that's how I knew he was going to be someone important. At one point I was walking over rocks and I was trying to say, "Oh, now you're making me go through some damn obstacle course to get places." But I couldn't think of the words "obstacle course." So I said half the sentence and said, "What's one of those things where you have to get through stuff?" Seriously, that came out of my mouth. And he still liked me after that. :) Several times throughout that day I would be like, "God, I can't think of it!" and he would whisper the word I was trying to think of in my ear. How very helpful. And we would laugh heartily. I told him, "This is totally your fault mister magic steal my words man. I never get like this."
Okay, I got on tangential sap mode for a minute. He does that to me. Back on topic Melanie!
The point of this was just to say that I enjoy in person human interaction. I think texting and phone calls are for when you don't have the opportunity to get together in person. They are a backup and a lovely way to stay in touch. But they are most definitely not my favorite way to interact.
Happy picture of the day: a gorgeous vintage Yelloware jug that I just may have to buy myself from Etsy. I am a little obsessed with vintage dishes/housewares. This would be a lovely addition to my home.